Throughout the two years of my motherhood journey I have been blessed with some amazing mamas to help me along. In Florida I was blessed with an amazing mommy group and a MOPS (mothers of preschoolers) group. I also had an amazing fellow ministry wife who was further along on the motherhood journey that really came beside me and still is one of the mamas I look up to and ask my crazy mom questions to.
When we moved to Nashville, I immediately looked for a MOPS group and found that there wasn't one near where we lived. Before even making the move I prayed that The Lord would help me meet some mom friends knowing how vital they are on this journey. God really blessed me with a church full of moms. Many of which have been mothers for longer. I have found that being surrounded by other mothers is a blessing and a curse. More mothers means more mothering opinions. More mothering opinions means well...more opinions. This can be a good and bad thing.
I have been blessed with some wonderful "Mommy Warriors."
This morning we met around a small table in a local coffee shop and shared our hearts. There is something wonderful that happens in those mama moments. It is a blessing to have friends who know me and love me anyways. I am thankful for friends who know when you are putting on a happy face and even when they don’t have the words, they are there. Being fully present in the moment with you.
I shared about my work frustrations and feeling a lack of satisfaction with my work. Being in an administrative position has been a switch in focus for me as I am used to being in direct contact with people. Working individually with children and parents has brought me such satisfaction in the past. Helping me feel like I have accomplished something at the end of the day, but my current job lacks that.
Today in the mama moments my fellow mommy warrior said exactly what I needed to hear. She said that my sense of satisfaction is that I am working to provide for my family. I have to admit, I would do anything to be able to stay home with my precious girl, but the Lord has provided a job for me with insurance and this is all the satisfaction I need. Knowing that I am able to provide something that we need. I guess it takes a Mommy Warrior to state the obvious...it's exactly what I needed today.
I know that I am a better mom because I take Mama Moments. Making the time to fellowship with friends is important but perhaps the most important mama moment I had was after I came home, took a nap (a rare thing for my usual busy Saturdays) and then spent time with my God. Praying and crying out to Him is what helps me more than any breakfast and coffee with my mommy friends ever could. I really believe that all moms need to have a mentor mom and have a mom that they mentor.
The moms that God has placed in my life, those who are local and those who are well, not so local, are critical to the effectiveness of my mama-bility. They encourage me, challenge me, and pray for me. But more importantly all moms need to make and take time to spend in quiet moments alone with God.
I think the world we live in, social media and even something as fun as pintrest shake my mommy skills and confidence. There are days when I feel totally inadequate and even days when I feel over confident in my mothering abilities. These are the times when I need Mama Moments the most, moments with fellow moms and moments alone. I'm still learning about this mothering thing. I guess I always will be learning since each age and stage brings new challenges. Above all I am choosing to be fully present in the mama moments.
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